¿Por qué la vivimos como algo terrible?
Before getting to write this book, I had many ideas for self-help books with humor, for the woman who wants to marry, be thin, millions, travel the world and be happy, which (oddly enough) not is so difficult to achieve ...
Until one day he came home to visit a little girl eight years old he found in my bathroom a box of tampons and asked for it was. I looked at her mother for permission to respond and answered:
- is for the period ... You know what that is?
- No ... and I do not care! - Said angrily, and ran away.
With my friend looked at frost. Eight years and already terrified with the theme! We called and asked:
- Tell me ..., why do not want anything to do with it?.
- Because I do not like! - Cried, dazed
- And why you do not like, if you know what it is?
- Because you do not like! - Told the mother, pointing a finger accusingly. And ran away again.
In short, the little girl had never menstruated, knew not what was the period ... and hated it. Did not even want to hear about it.
Then I was thinking that rather than write books explaining how understand men and how to live in love, that's putting the cart before the horse. The truth is that before anyone think of love, you love yourself. And women have serious problems with this from a little girl querernos.Y if you mosletaa both the thought of having your period, which is the essence of being a woman ... I think the story sums up the whole situation of women, which is the chicken and egg. Menstruation is shameful and taboo because we do not like. And we do not like because it is shameful and taboo. Finding the point of this ball head I've gotten into this mess to find out why so much secrecy for a little monthly menstrual blood.
Why the subject of menstruation continues to be embarrassing even in modern societies?
Why women avoid talking about the rule and hide it carefully, as if it were a terrible shame? Why
mothers fail to remove bias in this event when it happens to their daughters and they continue to transmit the same prejudices of the grandmother? Why
teens of this century avant-garde and cibernésticas girls with piercings and tattoos, "carefully avoided the issue by using euphemisms or mention stupid?.
Why feminine wipes the ads do not mention the word "menstruation" and warnings shown in the power absorption televisisvos Compress using blue ink? Why
with my closest friends told us how we live, and as has been our menarche, and every time I try to talk about it, change the subject? Why
half of humanity - women are 51% of the earthlings, live menstruation with more guilt than if he had assaulted a bank?
Seeking answers to these questions I wrote this book. I confess I would rather have a book to my 13 years, if not understood anything about it. He also wished that there was this book when my daughter first had to feel less alone in the trance.
But better late than never and so I wrote, because there are no books on the subject -. And often the authors write the books that we would have liked to read and not find it anywhere.
Why the hate?
Until one day he came home to visit a little girl eight years old he found in my bathroom a box of tampons and asked for it was. I looked at her mother for permission to respond and answered:
- is for the period ... You know what that is?
- No ... and I do not care! - Said angrily, and ran away.
With my friend looked at frost. Eight years and already terrified with the theme! We called and asked:
- Tell me ..., why do not want anything to do with it?.
- Because I do not like! - Cried, dazed
- And why you do not like, if you know what it is?
- Because you do not like! - Told the mother, pointing a finger accusingly. And ran away again.
In short, the little girl had never menstruated, knew not what was the period ... and hated it. Did not even want to hear about it.
Then I was thinking that rather than write books explaining how understand men and how to live in love, that's putting the cart before the horse. The truth is that before anyone think of love, you love yourself. And women have serious problems with this from a little girl querernos.Y if you mosletaa both the thought of having your period, which is the essence of being a woman ... I think the story sums up the whole situation of women, which is the chicken and egg. Menstruation is shameful and taboo because we do not like. And we do not like because it is shameful and taboo. Finding the point of this ball head I've gotten into this mess to find out why so much secrecy for a little monthly menstrual blood.
Why the subject of menstruation continues to be embarrassing even in modern societies?
Why women avoid talking about the rule and hide it carefully, as if it were a terrible shame? Why
mothers fail to remove bias in this event when it happens to their daughters and they continue to transmit the same prejudices of the grandmother? Why
teens of this century avant-garde and cibernésticas girls with piercings and tattoos, "carefully avoided the issue by using euphemisms or mention stupid?.
Why feminine wipes the ads do not mention the word "menstruation" and warnings shown in the power absorption televisisvos Compress using blue ink? Why
with my closest friends told us how we live, and as has been our menarche, and every time I try to talk about it, change the subject? Why
half of humanity - women are 51% of the earthlings, live menstruation with more guilt than if he had assaulted a bank?
Seeking answers to these questions I wrote this book. I confess I would rather have a book to my 13 years, if not understood anything about it. He also wished that there was this book when my daughter first had to feel less alone in the trance.
But better late than never and so I wrote, because there are no books on the subject -. And often the authors write the books that we would have liked to read and not find it anywhere.
A summer day was the kitchen of a house full of teenage girls.
- Why not go to the pool, it's hot? - I said
- She can not because her stomach hurts, "he said one of the friends of my daughter.
When I went to look for an antacid told me it hurt a lot more down. He said "it hurts my ovaries, but the ovaries do not hurt, what hurts is the uterus.
And he said he would not get into the water because the water would cut off period. I said no cutting, and to wear a tampon to get into the calm water. He told me he would use a tampon or crazy, and that his mother also used it. I stopped insisting, until another girl came asking for towels, and just out of the water.
- Why it does not enter the water? - Asked to see your friend very dressed.
- Because I am unwell, "said the friend
- Do as I do, I'm ill and I get into the water without cotton or anything because the water cut me!
I froze. We were three women, three different menstrual theories. How nice teenagers have scrambling twentieth century this subject! Why
much mess?
Because menstruation is an international secret. no one should know how it comes, as you live or you have it. And when you do a silent cospiración a daily topic, absolutramente happens to all women of mudno, it is obvious that we assemble myths, legends, rituals absurdities and follies invemntos around the lake very simple, just because no one shares the who knows the subject.
I give an example: suppose you are given an iguana and no one tells you how you should feed it. The iguana should eat every day to stay alive, and everyone knows it's normal mudno a coma iguana. But as talk of feeding the iguana is taboo, no one tells anyone what she's fed, and how to give, each one must feed in private, do not talk about it and no one should leave traces of what fed him. If this custom is maintained over time, until the words "iguana" and "food" are embarrassing, private and taboo - not only no one will have the slightest idea how to feed an iguana, but the poison would die iguianas up extinction.
Look how easy it would have solved everything if everyone had consulted with experts from iguanas to see what that iguanas prefer to eat, and what is their diet. But at this point the word "Iguana" is rude, and there would be experts in iguanas to avoid embarrassing his family with his profession. Iguanans owners do not share experiences with each other, I would not be right to talk about iguanas undernourished. You do not have a clue, but do not want to appear ignorant either. So shame, pride or misinformation, iguanas weaken and die. If you want to talk about it would say "go, no taboo on this, everyone knows that iguanas eat, and there is nothing special mudno have to feed them ... just not talk about the ETMA because it is a matter of conversation to talk at lunch. " And if you ask: "Do you like food your iguana? ". You say, "Well ... since no one ever spoke of the topic, I give the leftover skins and seeds, as I saw my mother did with her iguana ... Can we change the subject?" ...
happens that we are in a world which is easier to talk about the diet of the iguana that of menstruation. I set the example because it seems exotic, complicated, they know a few ... when erelaidada is a daily, very simple, which is resolved only by asking, "Mom, what do I do?". The universal problem is that Mom does not respond, because you're talking about iguana ... sorry, of menstruation. And she did not wants to talk about it, because Sinet uncomfortable, as he felt all his life, from the Ochoco years old or younger, at the slightest allusion to something that bothered her mother, grandmother and her tataratataraabuela.
Seeing that we are all immersed in myths and lies, secrets and mysteries, I began to ask point-blank women from different countries how they felt them before menstruation, as they lived, what they used female guards. I was amazed to see that in all cases it was clear that adult women do not know how to deal with menstruation and menarche were all traumatic and embarrassing.
Some confessed to never be encouraged to use a buffer used other birth control pills to prevent bleeding in a day at the beach and others had come to get cubes smell in the vagina to delay the arrival dela menstruation in the weekend.
There are homes where the women must hide swabs and tampons - as a terrorist hide their sticks of dynamite and trotyl breads - so that no one knew that they had "come."
The craziest thing is that everyone knows that women menstruate. But they are required to dismularlo all his life, so that no one suppose that never menstruate. Indeed prefer that others think they are sterile before they get us suppose that is in "these days."
Menstruation is something as natural as breathing, but I still believe that there is something pathological to hide fervently.
But why do not we love our period?
- Why not go to the pool, it's hot? - I said
- She can not because her stomach hurts, "he said one of the friends of my daughter.
When I went to look for an antacid told me it hurt a lot more down. He said "it hurts my ovaries, but the ovaries do not hurt, what hurts is the uterus.
And he said he would not get into the water because the water would cut off period. I said no cutting, and to wear a tampon to get into the calm water. He told me he would use a tampon or crazy, and that his mother also used it. I stopped insisting, until another girl came asking for towels, and just out of the water.
- Why it does not enter the water? - Asked to see your friend very dressed.
- Because I am unwell, "said the friend
- Do as I do, I'm ill and I get into the water without cotton or anything because the water cut me!
I froze. We were three women, three different menstrual theories. How nice teenagers have scrambling twentieth century this subject! Why
much mess?
Because menstruation is an international secret. no one should know how it comes, as you live or you have it. And when you do a silent cospiración a daily topic, absolutramente happens to all women of mudno, it is obvious that we assemble myths, legends, rituals absurdities and follies invemntos around the lake very simple, just because no one shares the who knows the subject.
I give an example: suppose you are given an iguana and no one tells you how you should feed it. The iguana should eat every day to stay alive, and everyone knows it's normal mudno a coma iguana. But as talk of feeding the iguana is taboo, no one tells anyone what she's fed, and how to give, each one must feed in private, do not talk about it and no one should leave traces of what fed him. If this custom is maintained over time, until the words "iguana" and "food" are embarrassing, private and taboo - not only no one will have the slightest idea how to feed an iguana, but the poison would die iguianas up extinction.
Look how easy it would have solved everything if everyone had consulted with experts from iguanas to see what that iguanas prefer to eat, and what is their diet. But at this point the word "Iguana" is rude, and there would be experts in iguanas to avoid embarrassing his family with his profession. Iguanans owners do not share experiences with each other, I would not be right to talk about iguanas undernourished. You do not have a clue, but do not want to appear ignorant either. So shame, pride or misinformation, iguanas weaken and die. If you want to talk about it would say "go, no taboo on this, everyone knows that iguanas eat, and there is nothing special mudno have to feed them ... just not talk about the ETMA because it is a matter of conversation to talk at lunch. " And if you ask: "Do you like food your iguana? ". You say, "Well ... since no one ever spoke of the topic, I give the leftover skins and seeds, as I saw my mother did with her iguana ... Can we change the subject?" ...
happens that we are in a world which is easier to talk about the diet of the iguana that of menstruation. I set the example because it seems exotic, complicated, they know a few ... when erelaidada is a daily, very simple, which is resolved only by asking, "Mom, what do I do?". The universal problem is that Mom does not respond, because you're talking about iguana ... sorry, of menstruation. And she did not wants to talk about it, because Sinet uncomfortable, as he felt all his life, from the Ochoco years old or younger, at the slightest allusion to something that bothered her mother, grandmother and her tataratataraabuela.
Seeing that we are all immersed in myths and lies, secrets and mysteries, I began to ask point-blank women from different countries how they felt them before menstruation, as they lived, what they used female guards. I was amazed to see that in all cases it was clear that adult women do not know how to deal with menstruation and menarche were all traumatic and embarrassing.
Some confessed to never be encouraged to use a buffer used other birth control pills to prevent bleeding in a day at the beach and others had come to get cubes smell in the vagina to delay the arrival dela menstruation in the weekend.
There are homes where the women must hide swabs and tampons - as a terrorist hide their sticks of dynamite and trotyl breads - so that no one knew that they had "come."
The craziest thing is that everyone knows that women menstruate. But they are required to dismularlo all his life, so that no one suppose that never menstruate. Indeed prefer that others think they are sterile before they get us suppose that is in "these days."
Menstruation is something as natural as breathing, but I still believe that there is something pathological to hide fervently.
But why do not we love our period?
Why the hate?
We hate because it is a hassle and an inconvenience.
spots you, it hurts, you enter the cotton clothing, you should check all the time until it will hold the pad before cambiartela other, you wake up with stained sheets, changes your mood, gives you oral anxiety and want comoer all day, you change the plans plans beach for film ...
Only a woman knows what it's like in a business meeting that stretches too tmpón feeling that he is thorough, and do not know whether to get up from your chair flirty yellow color leave a memory crimson ...
Only a woman knows what she is having a bad day at work, your husband does not do what you ask and that your children will not heed you, and that is to come up and you feel you explode at any moment because they no longer support even more outrage ...
Only a woman knows she can be on your period number 300 and still do not know how to spend the toilet or bidet water without leaving a trail of blood on the road, you should clean with three toilet paper reviewed, first dry, then wet ...
Only a woman knows what it means to have to fish with hand towel, pad, or cotton fallen into the toilet or water, often in the same own urine, so that the cotton from clogging the pipe.
Only a woman knows what she is feeling tremendous desire to make love in the middle period, and prefer not to do so because I am too lazy to find the papers to clean bath towel and then if there are spills ... and then you feel anxious and tense because not having my wishes.
Only a woman knows what to leave home the first day of menstruation to give classes to 40 adoslecentes rebels who did not want to hear, or go on tour to give talks in front of an eager audience of 400, or up to receive an award gala dressed and with impeccable hair, mauillaje and smile, thanking everyone in front of cameras and microphones, when your head is not there, the legs will weigh like lead, you squeeze the belly pain and Uncia what you want is to be in your bed, your co oldest and warm pajamas, wrapped in blankets, sleeping until you go.
Only a woman knows who is to be bleeding for a month without stopping, either because of endometriosis, a change of IUD or a hormonal disorder, and the m ismso time out with your boyfriend, going to the theater, get your in-laws at home or play football with your children pretend that nothing happens.
Menstruation is definitely uncomfortable.
forces you to move from here orfor than carrying all the trappings of wipes, tampons, cotton, ibuprofen, antispasmodics, sedatives, and aspirin, from here to there, because you never know when you come, or how hard you or if you come with abdominal pain, or headaches, or insomnia. And to make matters worse, women stores are absorbing things will not fit that look, so you hide.
Sometimes it makes you feel worse than the flu, but as you can go to work warning "I'm with influenza" to take pity on you, you can not enter each month to work saying "I am menstruating" without sounding whiny, strange or bizarre.
Menstruation forces you to stop at each toilet, toilet and stop at every stop too long twice in each bathroom. And I passed by circumstances which should explain and do not want, because it is not accepted anywhere to menstruation as an excuse for delays, omissions or reduced performance. Menstruation arrives
ailments are not serious enough to call a doctor, nor so mild as to be ignored. A 24-hour headache that goes with aspirin is something that would leave any man in bed ... however, women continue working, pretending that "here nothing happens. " And noi We ask the medical or employment liciencia, menstruation, although we start from pain.
Menstruation is not irrelevant nonsense.
It is a little something of nothing, that we spend a couple of days and forget.
The monthly menstruation is a revolution in the life of a woman.
About three days a month, everything changes and we see our life upside down. We are not the same, and do not see things eye to eye as always.
And what's more important: the period is always unpredictable. Each month of our lives, we know that will come, but we never have any certainty of when. And even the most regular woman in the world, more you know it is always a new moon, or every 28 days just can not bet on what time you will not lose much money arriegarse.
is an ingenious mechanism, clean and pure, and mourn or sneeze, but gets a bad press because it is absolutely and totally wild rebel, it happens when you want. And that is not well seen in our organized society, where if you get lost the award 8:05 punctuality, and if you get to the parking lot with 10 minutes of delay must pay an extra hour. A menstruation does not care about minutes, or what happens outside. Buedo organize an expedition to the Himalayas, plan to swim or dance naked, getting married tomorrow ... and she'll be like when you want.
You can speed up the intestines, digestion and even the beating of your heart. You can reduce the progress of your brain, your beats and your lungs. But you can not change the rhythm of your period. Demorarala can not, or speed. Your uterus is the only human organ that actually does what he wants.
women being the masters of the organ more anarchic, crazy, independent nature, it is noteworthy that live as submitted.
Is it just because she knows so unruly at its very heart? There was always
more lions in the circus than cows, because there is no attempt to tame but indomitable. Menstruating
not forever
spots you, it hurts, you enter the cotton clothing, you should check all the time until it will hold the pad before cambiartela other, you wake up with stained sheets, changes your mood, gives you oral anxiety and want comoer all day, you change the plans plans beach for film ...
Only a woman knows what it's like in a business meeting that stretches too tmpón feeling that he is thorough, and do not know whether to get up from your chair flirty yellow color leave a memory crimson ...
Only a woman knows what she is having a bad day at work, your husband does not do what you ask and that your children will not heed you, and that is to come up and you feel you explode at any moment because they no longer support even more outrage ...
Only a woman knows she can be on your period number 300 and still do not know how to spend the toilet or bidet water without leaving a trail of blood on the road, you should clean with three toilet paper reviewed, first dry, then wet ...
Only a woman knows what it means to have to fish with hand towel, pad, or cotton fallen into the toilet or water, often in the same own urine, so that the cotton from clogging the pipe.
Only a woman knows what she is feeling tremendous desire to make love in the middle period, and prefer not to do so because I am too lazy to find the papers to clean bath towel and then if there are spills ... and then you feel anxious and tense because not having my wishes.
Only a woman knows what to leave home the first day of menstruation to give classes to 40 adoslecentes rebels who did not want to hear, or go on tour to give talks in front of an eager audience of 400, or up to receive an award gala dressed and with impeccable hair, mauillaje and smile, thanking everyone in front of cameras and microphones, when your head is not there, the legs will weigh like lead, you squeeze the belly pain and Uncia what you want is to be in your bed, your co oldest and warm pajamas, wrapped in blankets, sleeping until you go.
Only a woman knows who is to be bleeding for a month without stopping, either because of endometriosis, a change of IUD or a hormonal disorder, and the m ismso time out with your boyfriend, going to the theater, get your in-laws at home or play football with your children pretend that nothing happens.
Menstruation is definitely uncomfortable.
forces you to move from here orfor than carrying all the trappings of wipes, tampons, cotton, ibuprofen, antispasmodics, sedatives, and aspirin, from here to there, because you never know when you come, or how hard you or if you come with abdominal pain, or headaches, or insomnia. And to make matters worse, women stores are absorbing things will not fit that look, so you hide.
Sometimes it makes you feel worse than the flu, but as you can go to work warning "I'm with influenza" to take pity on you, you can not enter each month to work saying "I am menstruating" without sounding whiny, strange or bizarre.
Menstruation forces you to stop at each toilet, toilet and stop at every stop too long twice in each bathroom. And I passed by circumstances which should explain and do not want, because it is not accepted anywhere to menstruation as an excuse for delays, omissions or reduced performance. Menstruation arrives
ailments are not serious enough to call a doctor, nor so mild as to be ignored. A 24-hour headache that goes with aspirin is something that would leave any man in bed ... however, women continue working, pretending that "here nothing happens. " And noi We ask the medical or employment liciencia, menstruation, although we start from pain.
Menstruation is not irrelevant nonsense.
It is a little something of nothing, that we spend a couple of days and forget.
The monthly menstruation is a revolution in the life of a woman.
About three days a month, everything changes and we see our life upside down. We are not the same, and do not see things eye to eye as always.
And what's more important: the period is always unpredictable. Each month of our lives, we know that will come, but we never have any certainty of when. And even the most regular woman in the world, more you know it is always a new moon, or every 28 days just can not bet on what time you will not lose much money arriegarse.
is an ingenious mechanism, clean and pure, and mourn or sneeze, but gets a bad press because it is absolutely and totally wild rebel, it happens when you want. And that is not well seen in our organized society, where if you get lost the award 8:05 punctuality, and if you get to the parking lot with 10 minutes of delay must pay an extra hour. A menstruation does not care about minutes, or what happens outside. Buedo organize an expedition to the Himalayas, plan to swim or dance naked, getting married tomorrow ... and she'll be like when you want.
You can speed up the intestines, digestion and even the beating of your heart. You can reduce the progress of your brain, your beats and your lungs. But you can not change the rhythm of your period. Demorarala can not, or speed. Your uterus is the only human organ that actually does what he wants.
women being the masters of the organ more anarchic, crazy, independent nature, it is noteworthy that live as submitted.
Is it just because she knows so unruly at its very heart? There was always
more lions in the circus than cows, because there is no attempt to tame but indomitable. Menstruating
not forever
Putting together all the periods one by one, each woman spends ten years of his life menstruating. And I do not think any woman just ruined ten years of his life feeling bad because your body works like a charm.
wrote this book to discover why women live menstruation in disgust and guilt, when something sucks and not worth much less, deserves blame.
I wanted to know why the girls feel about their bodies as well as their great-grandmothers felt, and why female sexuality is like living in the Middle Ages, or worse, because everything is moving in the world but our idea about female sexuality.
The word "menstruation" has a very noticeable repulsive charge.
While writing this book, my friends asked me "Are you still writing about ... that?", When they were called "it" to my previous topics.
feminine wipes containers do not print the word menstruation in their packaging. Men do not talk about it. And women prefer to appeal to any understatement ("I came," I'm in those days, 'I am unwell "etc) before saying" period ", a word whose root meaning is ... the moon! What's happening
centuries that puts us all and all against a female as routine process?
I began to investigate why there is so much negative emotional about something so natural. It was not easy to discover, as well as menstruation is not spoken, menstruation the estudia.Pero not think I've solved part of the dilemma. This book tells you why for centuries to the period it looks so suspicious. This book is the best pain reliever for those days when everything hurts. You see why we should not fear the rule and why you have to enjoy ..
you going to let you go ten years in mourning and pain, may make this decade a decade of discovery, joy, pride and pleasure?
know I take the negative charge is not something you solve in the overnight. Therefore, these pages tell you why, for centuries women have gotten us into his head that menstruation is bad. And you end phobic about your body, because one is afraid of what is not known.
have the luck to be born woman, who is a little chance. This is a unique experience that men admire from the past, and therefore the same insult and contempt, of pure envy.
If you happen to be women not waste it. Enjoy it fully. Menstruation does not look that lasts a lifetime. Take advantage of it, which soon ends.
wrote this book to discover why women live menstruation in disgust and guilt, when something sucks and not worth much less, deserves blame.
I wanted to know why the girls feel about their bodies as well as their great-grandmothers felt, and why female sexuality is like living in the Middle Ages, or worse, because everything is moving in the world but our idea about female sexuality.
The word "menstruation" has a very noticeable repulsive charge.
While writing this book, my friends asked me "Are you still writing about ... that?", When they were called "it" to my previous topics.
feminine wipes containers do not print the word menstruation in their packaging. Men do not talk about it. And women prefer to appeal to any understatement ("I came," I'm in those days, 'I am unwell "etc) before saying" period ", a word whose root meaning is ... the moon! What's happening
centuries that puts us all and all against a female as routine process?
I began to investigate why there is so much negative emotional about something so natural. It was not easy to discover, as well as menstruation is not spoken, menstruation the estudia.Pero not think I've solved part of the dilemma. This book tells you why for centuries to the period it looks so suspicious. This book is the best pain reliever for those days when everything hurts. You see why we should not fear the rule and why you have to enjoy ..
you going to let you go ten years in mourning and pain, may make this decade a decade of discovery, joy, pride and pleasure?
know I take the negative charge is not something you solve in the overnight. Therefore, these pages tell you why, for centuries women have gotten us into his head that menstruation is bad. And you end phobic about your body, because one is afraid of what is not known.
have the luck to be born woman, who is a little chance. This is a unique experience that men admire from the past, and therefore the same insult and contempt, of pure envy.
If you happen to be women not waste it. Enjoy it fully. Menstruation does not look that lasts a lifetime. Take advantage of it, which soon ends.
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