The myth of virginity
I put as an example because it is one of the many myths designed to be of concern to women, subjecting them and make them feel guilty.
At a meeting of women asked if they knew one woman in life that has been conscious of losing virginity at the time the incident occurred. All looked at me bewildered. I explained that I'm writing a book on the subject, and I'm doing a survey of women around the world, I discovered that virginity does not exist, but a convenient myth imposed by men from many centuries, all of us continue to believe. Imagine women were like men, without any mark on their body if it is the first, second or fifth time you make love. Would end bans, mandates, requirements, and all of them could have always had an active sex life that allowed them to compare men with each other to decide to stay with the best lover or who enjoy in bed, as they do ... right?
Because men never wanted to compare them with another - for fear that another is better equipped - a system of free women to convict ill equipped to unwanted celibacy. Because men have a good opinion of themselves and so they help each other, they all did their best it is established the myth of the hymen but no one would invent a rule to protect a membrane that exists in one in 100,000 women, right? It would be like prohibiting women from eating sweets because there is a diabetic 100,000. So
virginity as such does not exist and this deserves a moment of silence for the thousands of chickens and pigeons have given their lives for their blood staining a snow-white sheets feature of ladies without a hymen repute not bleeding or in first intercourse. If the hymen there ... where do you leave the menstruaciñon? If pain and bleeding out virginity tests, many women lost three sons after a divorce, and an encounter with a brute.
Women
devalued. In Afghanistan, women are forbidden to make ice cream in India forbid them to marry whomever they want, Azerbaijan forbid kissing his boyfriend in public places, in Iran, UAE, Saudi Arabia and much of the Muslim mudno prohibit them show their hair and eyes, Morocco prohibit wearing miniskirts, Japan prohibit them decide their fate in Baghdad are forbidden to attend public pools.
forbid Africa will decide how many children and forbid everybody to have lovers, smoking a pipe, walking alone wherever they want when they want, no make-up shave ever and ever. In the West they pierce the earlobes just born. A girl should know how to behave to others, like sitting in a chair, how gesturing and talking. Girls do not spit, do not cry, not punched, or sit on the floor with her legs open. 
Girls should get their hair long and can not cut it before you leave the breasts, so do not confuse them with men. Girls should always be trimmed and dressed as princesses. When properly trimmed, all the flattered. If not, send it to be fixed. 
From the earliest age they give them appliances, toy kitchens, vacuums, irons, ironing boards, brooms, toys mixers, pink (not sold a single blender light blue for men who dream of becoming chefs.) Girls grow up watching commercials where Mom cooking, ironing, washing, heals wounds, brings her husband aspirin, choose oil, laundry soap and detergent. Famous women are displayed on the covers of magazines half naked. The remaining 30% earn less than a male in the same position .. Endorsed as female circumcision is practiced ritual made even today among the Copts, Egyptians, Peru, vast territories in Africa and Asia and some regions of Australia. In 1960 the practice was banned by the World Health Organization, without being able to delete the custom even among the Muslim or African living in London and Paris. It aims at source is to take away the woman's vulva area that produces sexual pleasure, and turn it into a mere machine to have children, reducing the female reproductive function, such as the Christian church centuries ago so demand. Many doctors continue to support this practice, pointing out that while women without sexual desire is more socially integrated than selfishly seeking pleasure for himself. It is curious that are not discussed in the same way towards men. Poor pupil psychoanalyst Marie Bonaparte Freud and author of "female sexuality," he said in his therapy with Sigmund that he must remove the clitoris to feel less attracted towards sex, which made her uneasy, distracted and caused endless troubles. Indeed, the Bonaparte foulbrood needed was a boyfriend, but even she was convinced it was best not to feel sexual pleasure ever again, aided by Sigmund said that the clitoris was a useless vestige of the male phallus and pathogen. In 1974 Professor Pierre Hanry, said that the vocation of women is being a mother and give her clitoris pleasure sterile and asocial, whereas the penis gives pleasure and social fruitful ... so there we have the reason that - if you removed the clitoris to women because it gives pleasure - do not take away also the penis for men. The psychiatrist Laing (famous scholar of the Depression) said in 1977 came from a conference in Rome where he was glad to see that most physicians agreed that hysterectomy was a practice that was abused for commercial purposes, adding " Personally I think most women hate gynecologists. Uterine envy is deeper than penis envy that blame women. " Sigmund Freud And no doubt, to send his patient to remove her clitoris, and the invention of the castration complex, it would have wished to be born women, poor fellow. In addition, clitoridectomy, infibulation and all these aberrant practices of tampering, so sewing tajear and more tender than we are made so that no woman are like making love, or the husband or another. With the husband, because they see how much they enjoyed busting a woman, and others less, because every husband is always the suspicion that his wife shall have more to another than with him. So to end this dilemma, it is best to sew the vulva and live in peace. Overall, when all go through the same thing, and is tradition and fashion. 
All these are almost subliminal messages we are piercing the common sense and devalue women without stopping. We are awash in male attitudes, so insidious that are difficult to detect and combat. English Minister
A [1] said that "women are judged by much more than men, since at how you dress, if you have a face, how you express yourself, if you have a slip or you do not . We are viewed with a magnifying glass. The measuring stick is different. "The disqualification, the disqualification, the blame, accusation, contempt and infantilization of women are some of the usual maneuvers to remove them all. Women who give in to this male discourse are the masses generally socially acceptable, because repiten lo que repiten todos :” qué desastre que somos las mujeres”.
Foucault dice que donde existen relaciones de poder, también existe una resistencia constante contra el poder dominante, pero si ésta resistencia no existe, no podemos hablar de poder sino de dominación.Especialmente si la resistencia es castigada. Una mujer debe ir a juicio para probar que es víctima de acoso sexual en el trabajo, y estos son cargos casi imposibles de probar. Las revistas – femeninas o masculinas- llenan sus tapas con mujeres desnudas, y no por honrar al cuerpo femenino sino para cosificarlo ante los ojos masculinos. Si una mujer quiere ver un hombre desnudo tienen que comprar una revista para gays. En Suecia una par de muchachas hartas see advertising posters with naked women, took to the streets to cover them, to finish arrested and sentenced to pay a fine for causing financial loss to the poster ... who no one accused of discriminating against women. So immersed in the discourse against women are all that any sexist behavior becomes very difficult to prove: The women themselves, accustomed to these daily abuses, and not perceive. "There is so much machismo", they tell you not realize that every street, avenue, station and city bears the name of a man and a woman ever. 
avenues and streets named after male that no woman can travel alone at any time - how could a man - because to assail a man perhaps, but a woman also raped and killed. Women do not even need to subject. They are ruthless with themselves, and terribly condescending to men. Being interviewed a young master gardener in a television [2] speaking of education, confessed to having to fight against many prejudices to be accepted by parents and colleagues. "But just as in the past the first woman doctor had to fight machismo to be accepted among their male colleagues, I actually had the privilege of being accepted, received, pampered, entertained and helped by my female colleagues because I am the minority ... which shows that we live in a society patriarchal. " It's like when a woman makes a dinner for twenty people and no one says thanks. But when the final three-course, your husband brings the coffee and the cups and everyone says "how wonderful husband you, so willfully." Bah!
[1] Equality Minister of Spain, Bibiana Aido, in a note
2008 [2] Monitor Culture in TVE on August 19, 2008
silent resistance
Women are now resisting. Proof of this is that many psychologists say women. before the consultation had emotional issues and relationship problems, for more than a decade have labor problems as their biggest concern.
The women's magazine "Elle" of Sweden commissioned a survey among women from Europe also found that for women the major concern is health, followed by "a meaningful life", in third place came the money and only fourth love. More than half were against cosmetic surgery and 91% said they dress and arranged to please themselves. Meanwhile, the birth rate is falling steadily. The number of children born to a European woman decreased from 4 in 1820 3 in 1960 to 2 in 1990 and 1.44 in 1993. Each of them is preferred to have fewer children or having them continue to live under. That's the most emphatic act of resistance that may perform.
is no coincidence that in proportion to this trend, increasing worldwide gender violence and the number of women raped, beaten and murdered in the hands of men who want to demonstrate who is boss here. Is being repeated today the witch hunts of the Middle Ages, where any woman suspected to exercise birth control was accused of heresy and burned in the public square. But this time, further that the Church wants to fill subjects, - true that men want women modern return to the submission of the house, cooking and child rearing. In public, are men who speak of equality and freedom. In private, they keep the old traditional male practices: the man earns money and woman is the maid confined to reproduction. Many people want to live in that famous old pattern, but actually prevents them because mudno cambiando.La women today are divorcing and can measure the number of children in order to decide what to do with his life. If men are frustrated and aggressive, to see his "manhood" into question, they have work ahead to understand that they can not continue feeling as a threat not the only one who has the power. And they must learn stop seeing "their" women as a personal possession. The term "femicide" was recently established by the UN in 2001 - defined as "the murder of women as a result end gender-based violence that occurs in both the private and public space." The killing of women is happening all over the world at a ferocious pace and growing .. Helpless, unable to find a new site in couples, men get angry ... and kill them.
The number of women killed are the tip of the iceberg, because every death marks years of abuse and mistreatment that only in extreme cases result in death. Anyway, are frightening figures is committed in Argentina a femicide every two and a half days, in addition to 11 young people a month away, they just enslaved in prostitution in Latin America. In Spain there is a femicide per week minimum, but two years ago totaled 84 deaths in one year. In France, the deaths are one every five days. In Guatemala there are two murders per day.
In Ciudad Juarez, Mexico, 180 women a month away and die .. 37 per year and is a city, not a country. In India there are 25,000 murders per year and two million abortions to get rid of female fetuses (not to pay the dowry in the future), which already leads to a shortage of women: there are only 700 women per 1000 men. 52% women have been assaulted by their partners, and in any country there are an average of 30,000 complaints annually from abuse. In Ecuador 60% of women being abused. 98% of the murdered women had reported his murderer. But that was not spoken, and remains very difficult to address this issue in the media, although it is a malaise in which men also fall prey to forced from their homes, separated from their children, suspected of everything.
This is the sad end of a long path of female subjugation, in which menstruation as shameful is just one symptom of the pavers.
Men have work ahead accompany women in this evolution. Hay estudios de Estados Unidos que prueban que los hombres que realizan más tareas domésticas y cuidan a los niños tienen mayor cantidad de relaciones sexuales y matrimonios más sólidos, porque cuantas más tareas domésticas hacen los hombres, más felices se sienten las mujeres [1] . "Cuando los hombres realizan más labores en casa, la percepción de las mujeres sobre la equidad y la satisfacción matrimonial aumenta, y la pareja tiene menos conflictos", afirma el líder del estudio .De hecho, que el hombre friegue los platos y saque la basura, definitivamente le agrega más sex appeal que el mejor perfume . Lo hace más humano y solidario …¡ más sexy! Lástima que the same statistics indicate that the work of men in the house has only doubled in 40 years, since 1960, going to happen from 15% to 30% of all households. But no doubt that a greater role of men in women's home range will result in less tired, more liberated, more grateful and more loving, harmonious and lasting marriages.
[1] http://www.contemporaryfamilies.org
I put as an example because it is one of the many myths designed to be of concern to women, subjecting them and make them feel guilty.
At a meeting of women asked if they knew one woman in life that has been conscious of losing virginity at the time the incident occurred. All looked at me bewildered. I explained that I'm writing a book on the subject, and I'm doing a survey of women around the world, I discovered that virginity does not exist, but a convenient myth imposed by men from many centuries, all of us continue to believe. Imagine women were like men, without any mark on their body if it is the first, second or fifth time you make love. Would end bans, mandates, requirements, and all of them could have always had an active sex life that allowed them to compare men with each other to decide to stay with the best lover or who enjoy in bed, as they do ... right?
Because men never wanted to compare them with another - for fear that another is better equipped - a system of free women to convict ill equipped to unwanted celibacy. Because men have a good opinion of themselves and so they help each other, they all did their best it is established the myth of the hymen but no one would invent a rule to protect a membrane that exists in one in 100,000 women, right? It would be like prohibiting women from eating sweets because there is a diabetic 100,000. So
virginity as such does not exist and this deserves a moment of silence for the thousands of chickens and pigeons have given their lives for their blood staining a snow-white sheets feature of ladies without a hymen repute not bleeding or in first intercourse. If the hymen there ... where do you leave the menstruaciñon? If pain and bleeding out virginity tests, many women lost three sons after a divorce, and an encounter with a brute.
Women devalued. In Afghanistan, women are forbidden to make ice cream in India forbid them to marry whomever they want, Azerbaijan forbid kissing his boyfriend in public places, in Iran, UAE, Saudi Arabia and much of the Muslim mudno prohibit them show their hair and eyes, Morocco prohibit wearing miniskirts, Japan prohibit them decide their fate in Baghdad are forbidden to attend public pools.
forbid Africa will decide how many children and forbid everybody to have lovers, smoking a pipe, walking alone wherever they want when they want, no make-up shave ever and ever. In the West they pierce the earlobes just born. A girl should know how to behave to others, like sitting in a chair, how gesturing and talking. Girls do not spit, do not cry, not punched, or sit on the floor with her legs open. Girls should get their hair long and can not cut it before you leave the breasts, so do not confuse them with men. Girls should always be trimmed and dressed as princesses. When properly trimmed, all the flattered. If not, send it to be fixed. From the earliest age they give them appliances, toy kitchens, vacuums, irons, ironing boards, brooms, toys mixers, pink (not sold a single blender light blue for men who dream of becoming chefs.) Girls grow up watching commercials where Mom cooking, ironing, washing, heals wounds, brings her husband aspirin, choose oil, laundry soap and detergent. Famous women are displayed on the covers of magazines half naked. The remaining 30% earn less than a male in the same position .. Endorsed as female circumcision is practiced ritual made even today among the Copts, Egyptians, Peru, vast territories in Africa and Asia and some regions of Australia. In 1960 the practice was banned by the World Health Organization, without being able to delete the custom even among the Muslim or African living in London and Paris. It aims at source is to take away the woman's vulva area that produces sexual pleasure, and turn it into a mere machine to have children, reducing the female reproductive function, such as the Christian church centuries ago so demand. Many doctors continue to support this practice, pointing out that while women without sexual desire is more socially integrated than selfishly seeking pleasure for himself. It is curious that are not discussed in the same way towards men. Poor pupil psychoanalyst Marie Bonaparte Freud and author of "female sexuality," he said in his therapy with Sigmund that he must remove the clitoris to feel less attracted towards sex, which made her uneasy, distracted and caused endless troubles. Indeed, the Bonaparte foulbrood needed was a boyfriend, but even she was convinced it was best not to feel sexual pleasure ever again, aided by Sigmund said that the clitoris was a useless vestige of the male phallus and pathogen. In 1974 Professor Pierre Hanry, said that the vocation of women is being a mother and give her clitoris pleasure sterile and asocial, whereas the penis gives pleasure and social fruitful ... so there we have the reason that - if you removed the clitoris to women because it gives pleasure - do not take away also the penis for men. The psychiatrist Laing (famous scholar of the Depression) said in 1977 came from a conference in Rome where he was glad to see that most physicians agreed that hysterectomy was a practice that was abused for commercial purposes, adding " Personally I think most women hate gynecologists. Uterine envy is deeper than penis envy that blame women. " Sigmund Freud And no doubt, to send his patient to remove her clitoris, and the invention of the castration complex, it would have wished to be born women, poor fellow. In addition, clitoridectomy, infibulation and all these aberrant practices of tampering, so sewing tajear and more tender than we are made so that no woman are like making love, or the husband or another. With the husband, because they see how much they enjoyed busting a woman, and others less, because every husband is always the suspicion that his wife shall have more to another than with him. So to end this dilemma, it is best to sew the vulva and live in peace. Overall, when all go through the same thing, and is tradition and fashion. All these are almost subliminal messages we are piercing the common sense and devalue women without stopping. We are awash in male attitudes, so insidious that are difficult to detect and combat. English Minister
A [1] said that "women are judged by much more than men, since at how you dress, if you have a face, how you express yourself, if you have a slip or you do not . We are viewed with a magnifying glass. The measuring stick is different. "The disqualification, the disqualification, the blame, accusation, contempt and infantilization of women are some of the usual maneuvers to remove them all. Women who give in to this male discourse are the masses generally socially acceptable, because repiten lo que repiten todos :” qué desastre que somos las mujeres”.
Foucault dice que donde existen relaciones de poder, también existe una resistencia constante contra el poder dominante, pero si ésta resistencia no existe, no podemos hablar de poder sino de dominación.Especialmente si la resistencia es castigada. Una mujer debe ir a juicio para probar que es víctima de acoso sexual en el trabajo, y estos son cargos casi imposibles de probar. Las revistas – femeninas o masculinas- llenan sus tapas con mujeres desnudas, y no por honrar al cuerpo femenino sino para cosificarlo ante los ojos masculinos. Si una mujer quiere ver un hombre desnudo tienen que comprar una revista para gays. En Suecia una par de muchachas hartas see advertising posters with naked women, took to the streets to cover them, to finish arrested and sentenced to pay a fine for causing financial loss to the poster ... who no one accused of discriminating against women. So immersed in the discourse against women are all that any sexist behavior becomes very difficult to prove: The women themselves, accustomed to these daily abuses, and not perceive. "There is so much machismo", they tell you not realize that every street, avenue, station and city bears the name of a man and a woman ever. avenues and streets named after male that no woman can travel alone at any time - how could a man - because to assail a man perhaps, but a woman also raped and killed. Women do not even need to subject. They are ruthless with themselves, and terribly condescending to men. Being interviewed a young master gardener in a television [2] speaking of education, confessed to having to fight against many prejudices to be accepted by parents and colleagues. "But just as in the past the first woman doctor had to fight machismo to be accepted among their male colleagues, I actually had the privilege of being accepted, received, pampered, entertained and helped by my female colleagues because I am the minority ... which shows that we live in a society patriarchal. " It's like when a woman makes a dinner for twenty people and no one says thanks. But when the final three-course, your husband brings the coffee and the cups and everyone says "how wonderful husband you, so willfully." Bah! [1] Equality Minister of Spain, Bibiana Aido, in a note
2008 [2] Monitor Culture in TVE on August 19, 2008
silent resistance
Women are now resisting. Proof of this is that many psychologists say women. before the consultation had emotional issues and relationship problems, for more than a decade have labor problems as their biggest concern.
The women's magazine "Elle" of Sweden commissioned a survey among women from Europe also found that for women the major concern is health, followed by "a meaningful life", in third place came the money and only fourth love. More than half were against cosmetic surgery and 91% said they dress and arranged to please themselves. Meanwhile, the birth rate is falling steadily. The number of children born to a European woman decreased from 4 in 1820 3 in 1960 to 2 in 1990 and 1.44 in 1993. Each of them is preferred to have fewer children or having them continue to live under. That's the most emphatic act of resistance that may perform.
is no coincidence that in proportion to this trend, increasing worldwide gender violence and the number of women raped, beaten and murdered in the hands of men who want to demonstrate who is boss here. Is being repeated today the witch hunts of the Middle Ages, where any woman suspected to exercise birth control was accused of heresy and burned in the public square. But this time, further that the Church wants to fill subjects, - true that men want women modern return to the submission of the house, cooking and child rearing. In public, are men who speak of equality and freedom. In private, they keep the old traditional male practices: the man earns money and woman is the maid confined to reproduction. Many people want to live in that famous old pattern, but actually prevents them because mudno cambiando.La women today are divorcing and can measure the number of children in order to decide what to do with his life. If men are frustrated and aggressive, to see his "manhood" into question, they have work ahead to understand that they can not continue feeling as a threat not the only one who has the power. And they must learn stop seeing "their" women as a personal possession. The term "femicide" was recently established by the UN in 2001 - defined as "the murder of women as a result end gender-based violence that occurs in both the private and public space." The killing of women is happening all over the world at a ferocious pace and growing .. Helpless, unable to find a new site in couples, men get angry ... and kill them.
The number of women killed are the tip of the iceberg, because every death marks years of abuse and mistreatment that only in extreme cases result in death. Anyway, are frightening figures is committed in Argentina a femicide every two and a half days, in addition to 11 young people a month away, they just enslaved in prostitution in Latin America. In Spain there is a femicide per week minimum, but two years ago totaled 84 deaths in one year. In France, the deaths are one every five days. In Guatemala there are two murders per day.
In Ciudad Juarez, Mexico, 180 women a month away and die .. 37 per year and is a city, not a country. In India there are 25,000 murders per year and two million abortions to get rid of female fetuses (not to pay the dowry in the future), which already leads to a shortage of women: there are only 700 women per 1000 men. 52% women have been assaulted by their partners, and in any country there are an average of 30,000 complaints annually from abuse. In Ecuador 60% of women being abused. 98% of the murdered women had reported his murderer. But that was not spoken, and remains very difficult to address this issue in the media, although it is a malaise in which men also fall prey to forced from their homes, separated from their children, suspected of everything. This is the sad end of a long path of female subjugation, in which menstruation as shameful is just one symptom of the pavers.
Men have work ahead accompany women in this evolution. Hay estudios de Estados Unidos que prueban que los hombres que realizan más tareas domésticas y cuidan a los niños tienen mayor cantidad de relaciones sexuales y matrimonios más sólidos, porque cuantas más tareas domésticas hacen los hombres, más felices se sienten las mujeres [1] . "Cuando los hombres realizan más labores en casa, la percepción de las mujeres sobre la equidad y la satisfacción matrimonial aumenta, y la pareja tiene menos conflictos", afirma el líder del estudio .De hecho, que el hombre friegue los platos y saque la basura, definitivamente le agrega más sex appeal que el mejor perfume . Lo hace más humano y solidario …¡ más sexy! Lástima que the same statistics indicate that the work of men in the house has only doubled in 40 years, since 1960, going to happen from 15% to 30% of all households. But no doubt that a greater role of men in women's home range will result in less tired, more liberated, more grateful and more loving, harmonious and lasting marriages.
[1] http://www.contemporaryfamilies.org
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