comes a time when silence is betrayal "the speech of Martin Luther King at Riverside Church, New York April 4, 1967
" every twenty-eight days I feel, sky down, legs in, so occupied, that being so busy and I feel so again and it is, however, the one I frequented, which dictates my steps in order to feel, led by my will more urgent, more needed, more desperately grasping at the tenderness, inviting me to be the one that has me increasingly ambush on alert ever, leaving red alert, intense, a trail of detached material on what I feel inhabited siendo.Tan do not know if I speak from within the blood in a tumult, and who watches the other, or that other me "
Chantal Maillard. "Philosophy in the critical days."
"" Menstruation "is a bad word?
How much of her life a woman is menstruating?
Assuming you start at 12 and you go at 60, going to menstruate 13 times a year for 50 years, about 650 times in all, if you have no children. If you have, you have to take about 12 or 15 periods, depending that breastfeeding a baby in which case you again mensruación month or two months to stop breastfeeding.
If we put all periods of a woman from menarche to menopause non-stop menstruating healthy women for ten years of his life, depending on the number of children tenga.Eso means the period covering almost a fifth of our lives reproductive. And that means that every time you come bothering you, you are ruining your life fifth reproductova and ten full years of your life.
As its name implies, the rule is a rule rather than exception. So why live like a rarity or dysfunction when it is not?
is a physiological process natural, the process makes you more reliably woman.
However, most women experience it as a punishment.
Why? Even in the Bible God punishes menstruating women: the biblical punishment was to give birth to children with pain, no pain menstruating. And then? Why so much taboo for a little blood?
Some people have told me "is no longer so taboo, you can now talk about" Oh, yeah? Where? The menses do not appear in books or magazines that do not address female ailments. The actors in any film ever menstruating. Nor is spoken of in everyday life, even between mother and daughter, between sisters, between friends or between colegas.Si is spoken, it is in low voice. It is an absolutely forbidden to speak to men.
This is done as if it were not menstruating. The teenagers do not share experiences or opinions about menstruation and among themselves and for that reason are still dragging fears, superstitions and ancient myths, as being best not to bathe with menstruation should not wash your hair because "the water cut menstruation, menstruating women or cut the mayonnaise (such as pregnant myth goes against worthy of fertility). And, most important that we make clear is ... nobody knows which are the rule!.
To investigate this issue went to the library to see if something had already written about it. The employee was a young man, black shirt and earring in his ear. For a moment I thought back when women had a librarian. But I also refused to take me a prejudiced attitude to talk about a man, so I approached him. I would say the word ... but could not. I went to say "Do you have books about menstruation?". There were people behind me, and did not want to shock anyone. So I told
- Hello, I need material about female sexuality ...
- The sector of romance novels in the third panel, on your right.
- Los siento, me expresé mal: lo que preciso es investigar sobre salud femenina.
- Libros de medicina, al fondo a la izquierda- me dijo
- Quiero decir… Preciso saber si tienen algo de higiene femenina.
- Si le sirve, le traigo “La historia del jabón”. – dijo sin mirarme, buscando en un fichero.
- No: preciso algo que hable acerca de la regla.
- ¿Matemáticas?, quinto panel abajo…
- No hablo de matemáticas…hablo de las otras reglas, las femeninas….
- ¡Ah, reglas de convivencia! Libros de Educación, atrás a la izquierda.
- No, eso no. – dije suspirando - Estoy investigando sobre el período….
- Cretaceous, Triassic, Jurassic ...? Geology is ...
- No, that ... the other time ...
- Ah, is talking about physics! Is the period of the pendulum?
- No, the period of women.
- Sorry, the only one who spoke of the period of the pendulum was a man. And will bring "Foucault's Pendulum" by Umberto Eco
The poor lad and enter his head that someone asked something about menstruación.Decidí find in bookstores served by women. I said on that subject there is nothing more than "Vagina Monologues" by Eve Ensler, but do not, and what better get it on video. I then went to a video store, excited to see how he would Ensler to speak to her vagina. But her vagina did not speak, nor had sexual intimacies. The speaker was his mouth, not talking about menstruation. I went back to the video. It could be that there was nothing about menstruation! I looked for movies that take "blood" in the title. But they were all from terror or war. For example, I rented one that seemed to refer to menarche, called "First Blood" ("First Blood"). But it was an action and shooting with Sylvester Stallone. The title refers to the first blood that by finishing a duel, where the rule is that "first is the loser bleeds." In the battle of life, the first is the woman bleeds. Aha, rightly always lose!
" every twenty-eight days I feel, sky down, legs in, so occupied, that being so busy and I feel so again and it is, however, the one I frequented, which dictates my steps in order to feel, led by my will more urgent, more needed, more desperately grasping at the tenderness, inviting me to be the one that has me increasingly ambush on alert ever, leaving red alert, intense, a trail of detached material on what I feel inhabited siendo.Tan do not know if I speak from within the blood in a tumult, and who watches the other, or that other me "
Chantal Maillard. "Philosophy in the critical days."
"" Menstruation "is a bad word?
How much of her life a woman is menstruating?
Assuming you start at 12 and you go at 60, going to menstruate 13 times a year for 50 years, about 650 times in all, if you have no children. If you have, you have to take about 12 or 15 periods, depending that breastfeeding a baby in which case you again mensruación month or two months to stop breastfeeding.
If we put all periods of a woman from menarche to menopause non-stop menstruating healthy women for ten years of his life, depending on the number of children tenga.Eso means the period covering almost a fifth of our lives reproductive. And that means that every time you come bothering you, you are ruining your life fifth reproductova and ten full years of your life.
As its name implies, the rule is a rule rather than exception. So why live like a rarity or dysfunction when it is not?
is a physiological process natural, the process makes you more reliably woman.
However, most women experience it as a punishment.
Why? Even in the Bible God punishes menstruating women: the biblical punishment was to give birth to children with pain, no pain menstruating. And then? Why so much taboo for a little blood?
Some people have told me "is no longer so taboo, you can now talk about" Oh, yeah? Where? The menses do not appear in books or magazines that do not address female ailments. The actors in any film ever menstruating. Nor is spoken of in everyday life, even between mother and daughter, between sisters, between friends or between colegas.Si is spoken, it is in low voice. It is an absolutely forbidden to speak to men.
This is done as if it were not menstruating. The teenagers do not share experiences or opinions about menstruation and among themselves and for that reason are still dragging fears, superstitions and ancient myths, as being best not to bathe with menstruation should not wash your hair because "the water cut menstruation, menstruating women or cut the mayonnaise (such as pregnant myth goes against worthy of fertility). And, most important that we make clear is ... nobody knows which are the rule!.
To investigate this issue went to the library to see if something had already written about it. The employee was a young man, black shirt and earring in his ear. For a moment I thought back when women had a librarian. But I also refused to take me a prejudiced attitude to talk about a man, so I approached him. I would say the word ... but could not. I went to say "Do you have books about menstruation?". There were people behind me, and did not want to shock anyone. So I told
- Hello, I need material about female sexuality ...
- The sector of romance novels in the third panel, on your right.
- Los siento, me expresé mal: lo que preciso es investigar sobre salud femenina.
- Libros de medicina, al fondo a la izquierda- me dijo
- Quiero decir… Preciso saber si tienen algo de higiene femenina.
- Si le sirve, le traigo “La historia del jabón”. – dijo sin mirarme, buscando en un fichero.
- No: preciso algo que hable acerca de la regla.
- ¿Matemáticas?, quinto panel abajo…
- No hablo de matemáticas…hablo de las otras reglas, las femeninas….
- ¡Ah, reglas de convivencia! Libros de Educación, atrás a la izquierda.
- No, eso no. – dije suspirando - Estoy investigando sobre el período….
- Cretaceous, Triassic, Jurassic ...? Geology is ...
- No, that ... the other time ...
- Ah, is talking about physics! Is the period of the pendulum?
- No, the period of women.
- Sorry, the only one who spoke of the period of the pendulum was a man. And will bring "Foucault's Pendulum" by Umberto Eco
The poor lad and enter his head that someone asked something about menstruación.Decidí find in bookstores served by women. I said on that subject there is nothing more than "Vagina Monologues" by Eve Ensler, but do not, and what better get it on video. I then went to a video store, excited to see how he would Ensler to speak to her vagina. But her vagina did not speak, nor had sexual intimacies. The speaker was his mouth, not talking about menstruation. I went back to the video. It could be that there was nothing about menstruation! I looked for movies that take "blood" in the title. But they were all from terror or war. For example, I rented one that seemed to refer to menarche, called "First Blood" ("First Blood"). But it was an action and shooting with Sylvester Stallone. The title refers to the first blood that by finishing a duel, where the rule is that "first is the loser bleeds." In the battle of life, the first is the woman bleeds. Aha, rightly always lose!
In America there are many books about menstruation. Are encouraged to publish in English because it is a language that nobody entiende.Así that writing this book I had to hold long talks in private with women who broke the taboo to confess they had ever talked to their mothers or their best friends. I studied books on gynecology. I poked into the net with the perseverance of a pearl diver, I made a pole vault over ancient prejudices to find answers that throw light on a topic still too dark.
Finally, I think I know why menstruation remains a terrible and frightening, you have to hide. And I think we know why the fuss about this matter we are relieved and reconciles all the fact of being female. And even just feeling proud of what you embarrassed before.
Menstruation is a unique and fascinating physiological process, not lifelong and therefore it is to be enjoyed every day .... ever suffered.
why menstruation is taboo?
You know what the word "taboo"?
"Taboo" is a behavior activity or practice prohibited, sacred, sacred or respected by a social group determinado.Dice Sigmund Freud is somewhat disturbing, dangerous, forbidden and impure sacred awakening fear. [1]
"Taboo" is a word derived from the Polynesian tapu and means "very strong signal." But there are experts who say "tapu" in Polynesian means "period" .... Which is certainly a strong signal!
What is taboo is forbidden for so long that - although it is unclear why, is respected to the letter, when the ban has already lost the sense of being. For example, between Muslims and Jews is taboo eating pork. The reason is that they knew that pigs previously transmitted trichinosis. So even today, having access to healthy pigs in these groups of people its meat is considered unhealthy.
In our society, menstruation and menstrual blood is a taboo so strong that it prevents you from talking about it at all unless the English cultures, as was Carlos, Prince of Wales told him by telephone to her lover Camilla Parker Bowles' Let me be your tampon. "
taboos exist to control things considered powerful. The ability of women to bleed without injury, at a predictable rate, together with the cycles of the moon, combined with the ability to give life to a new child, have been considered magical abilities for centuries and from which the man began to see how drunk.
The women were adored, deified, and sent feared due to its unique ability to menstruate. And so they developed strong taboos to protect society awarded the incredible power of menstruation. Power is not short: if you are menstruating is that you can give life, what is that perhaps the greatest demonstration of power? As
primitive societies gave him magical powers to women, generations removed they are saying that menstrual blood is polluting, and that women should take good care where shooting its poisonous blood-stained cloth. That is why even women more informed and modern evolved their feminine wipes hastily wrapped in a thousand papers and then sink the big ball of paper in the bottom of the basket so that no one can see, not realizing that ditch using so much paper to cover HACN it even more evident. And not only do that in public restrooms: being at home, wrap their towels used in bags put inside other bags ... for anyone to know they have their periods!
If you ask them why they do not know how to explain it. They all say "Not that disgust me, you do not want to gross out the other", "to not impressed, "because it is unpleasant for others." the truth is that they hide their menses by irrational and atavistic impulse that forces them to hide what is happening and that is too old to be explained with lógico.Comentarlo reasoning is considered a folly, a folly, an animal, we can not be revealing the wildest part of our person! Imagine that in a society that tries to control every minute and put everything fixed schedule, women happens something that appears suddenly, without warning, and that absolutely no one can controlar.Una can decide when and when not sleeping , when you urinate and when not to, and even when vomiting and when no. But you can not decide when and when not menstruating. Menstruation is absolutely rebellious, low as they want and nothing stops her. How can a modern, sophisticated girl will have something scheduled on the agenda, as a natural cycle, wild and untamed, by the design of their hormones? It is a complete nonsense! This puts any woman in the same place a wild animal. If you want to dominate the world, how we can dominate our period? The test period is that indomitable nature, bordering on self-indulgence, that's why women are still embarrassed to buy tampons or providing wipes in a pharmacy. No one is afraid to ask higiénicoporque role is to control when bathroom and when not to ... but you have to be a woman to be the folly of menstruating anytime! How can we be so wild?
[1] "Totem and Taboo
antediluvian prejudices and impossible cures
For this feature wild menstruation, it remains a taboo primitive, superstitious and old .. Our grandmothers never knew they would have a period before it will come. The feminine pads and tampons are not promoted on television until 1970. Menstruation is the clearest indication that a girl and a woman is sexually mature. And this red flag to anyone nervous, right? Why not have the same taboo on the expression of a boy and a man? In fact, everyday speech is full of words that refer to male genitals, from the "idiot" to "bad blood" through the "asshole" and "you the milk." Be rude to talk like that, but by no means taboo. So it seems that the menstrual taboo is not so much sexual maturity but it is a topic of female sexual maturity.
History is written by the victors, and as did the men do not menstruate, they decided that menstruation is bad and ugly. So they invented the blood is a curse from God, that women bleed because they have too much blood, it bleeds because exercise less than men and that the blood draining from their uterus, which is the body weaker, the landfill body and even thought about wild theories as the uterus moves causing health problems in different parts of the body. Medical books of the 60's suggest that women should not bathe during menstruation, or it raises the blood to the head. " Books around 1970 say wash your hair "short menstruation." And the books published after 2000, which can not move further on the subject claim "If painful menstruation, is because women are being fed wrong" and suggested dieting inconseguibles naturist full of ingredients like acai Brazilian, Chinese herbs or teas dreadful English names such as St John's Wort, which means "the wart San Juan "... what woman in her right jucie would take that, when your body asks only for chocolate?
They say that if you take chocolate you get hurt, and that menstruation hurts you more if you are filled with candy ... just as the body only asks for candy!
I say that for the period will not hurt you only feed yourself with shakes bean sprouts, alfalfa and flaxseed to alleviate menstrual cramps. I once tried to take off the pain with flaxseed. Yes it takes away the cramps. It happens that instead of eating half a teaspoon, reluctantly swallowed half a cup of parakeets that disgusting food. Then I thought to die of pain I had cramps all night ... and I swear I'll hurt so much that you forget the intestines of any menstrual pain! There must be another solution! But there is not because menstruation is taboo
What experts say this taboo?
Some justify the aversion to menstruation with the fact that primitive man did not understand how someone can bleed for four days without being mortally wounded. Freud thought the man was that menstruation was taboo because it reminded him of his fear of castration. Karl Menninger felt that the fact that menstruation is taboo is because that man is too much anxiety to see sexuality and emotionality of women these days exalted. In his book, "Menstruation and Menopause" (published by Knopf) New York psychologist says Paula Weideger this taboo is the result of fear and envy of the male history towards women, and that the taboo was created to ensure that she wants to match him in social status and believes that the taboo "plays an essential role for the man and as such remains live and grow, not diminish one iota from what it was two thousand years ago "The taboo teaches women a striking self-loathing and hatred and perennials that make it impossible to seek a place of power in the world, competing with men because they feel less because of the dreaded menstruation.
So as is tradition Jewish mothers slapping their daughter's menarche (to mark a before and after in life, they say), most women receive psychological blows throughout the world, which insists on mark heat to be ashamed of involuntary physiological process that happens in their bodies and that they could not avoid even if wanted.
Here is the greatest perversion of the matter: it is make women feel guilty for something that happens ominously, just for being women. Imagine if they were told that men should be ashamed because they grow mustaches, self-esteem would have forever cut short and embarrassed conceal all items shaved couple ever one knew the beard and mustache are still growing just for being men .
So now we see that it is unfair to look so bad actually menstruating, and we'll see why it has such a bad press.
Why we can not say we're menstruating?
All over the world, women spend one week per month, every month of his life, doing everything possible to hide the fact that the days are female.
invent any excuse to go to the bathroom often, we see some. Excuse
vs invented. I prefer others to think
"I drank too much beer" - do not menstruate, is that I'm an alcoholic!
"It broke my underwear elastic"-not menstruate, I am so poor that I have no
"I got a bug in his pants", do not menstruate, I have bugs in my private parts
"I'm broken", not blood, is diarrhea.
"I feel good" - I'm not menstruating, I'm throwing
"I have to take medicine" I'm not menstruating, I enferema.
"I broke the zipper of her skirt" No menses, use torn clothes.
"I is to jump a button on the shirt" does not menstruate, I'm fat.
"I'll go wash my hands again," I have not menstruated only an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
"I have cystitis"-not menstruate, only I have a horrible infection.
"I have to take something" ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... No menses, I am addict
"I have to check my makeup," do not menstruate, I am insecure and neurotic
"I'm going to comb"-not menstruate, I'm vain
All over the world, women spend one week per month, every month of his life, doing everything possible to hide the fact that the days are female.
invent any excuse to go to the bathroom often, we see some. Excuse
vs invented. I prefer others to think
"I drank too much beer" - do not menstruate, is that I'm an alcoholic!
"It broke my underwear elastic"-not menstruate, I am so poor that I have no
"I got a bug in his pants", do not menstruate, I have bugs in my private parts
"I'm broken", not blood, is diarrhea.
"I feel good" - I'm not menstruating, I'm throwing
"I have to take medicine" I'm not menstruating, I enferema.
"I broke the zipper of her skirt" No menses, use torn clothes.
"I is to jump a button on the shirt" does not menstruate, I'm fat.
"I'll go wash my hands again," I have not menstruated only an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
"I have cystitis"-not menstruate, only I have a horrible infection.
"I have to take something" ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... No menses, I am addict
"I have to check my makeup," do not menstruate, I am insecure and neurotic
"I'm going to comb"-not menstruate, I'm vain
"I spotted the dress with blood"-not menstruate, I have hemorrhoids
"I have to accompany a friend to the bathroom" .... "I do not menses, she is menstruating.
Is not it amazing? Women prefer other people think before they believe anything they menstruate!
is that the taboo against the rule, that women today must carefully hide passing a quarter of his life carrying the secret kept menstruando.Deben bajo siete llaves, disimular sus toallitas, apósitos y tampones, cuidarlos con discreción, y no revelar su estado más que por razones de fuerza mayor.
¿Por qué?
La ginecóloga francesa Lucienne Lanson afirma que “en toda la esfera de la fisiología humana no ha existido otra función corporal objeto de tan apasionada oratoria, violentas discusiones y descabelladas teorías como nuestro flujo menstrual”. Me creo lo de las descabelladas teorías, aunque no lo de las discusiones, porque es un tema que jamás se debate. Se la celebra o se la niega, se la considera mágica o maligna, beneficiosa o temible,y nadie a permanecido indiferente a este extraño proceso…pero no se lo debate or discuss or investigate: it prefers silence.
In our culture only shows the impact-absorbing protective pads on television ads, but it is forbidden for someone to find out that we are using them. The society supports and encourages this shame. It is considered proper to be ashamed, feel like a burden, we would hope that never came and relieved when they come no more.
If a healthy woman 40 years menstruating happens in your life just to have about 500 periods in total. But it makes sense
angry and ashamed of something that happens 500 times in life? Would not it be better reconciled with the process and live as a unique part of your feminine essence? What state is the woman in the world should be ashamed and hide a physiological process that invariably happens every 28 days? Is not it a highly debilitating, that of having to hide, hide, deny and conceal that something perfectly normal in our body? What's the macrobiotic dieting, Reiki, Tai Chi Chuan, Yoga, Pilates, meditation and various psychological therapies to be fine with it if we can not accept the natural process of our body? What about women in a society where if you come without warning and without cotton tampons heard you ask any woman you know to be discreet? It says it is possible that one of every seven women that surround us today are menstruating. Can one say which one is menstruating? And if there is no way of knowing what a woman is menstruating and what woman does not ... why is outlawed and disables a menstruating woman?
"I have to accompany a friend to the bathroom" .... "I do not menses, she is menstruating.
Is not it amazing? Women prefer other people think before they believe anything they menstruate!
is that the taboo against the rule, that women today must carefully hide passing a quarter of his life carrying the secret kept menstruando.Deben bajo siete llaves, disimular sus toallitas, apósitos y tampones, cuidarlos con discreción, y no revelar su estado más que por razones de fuerza mayor.
¿Por qué?
La ginecóloga francesa Lucienne Lanson afirma que “en toda la esfera de la fisiología humana no ha existido otra función corporal objeto de tan apasionada oratoria, violentas discusiones y descabelladas teorías como nuestro flujo menstrual”. Me creo lo de las descabelladas teorías, aunque no lo de las discusiones, porque es un tema que jamás se debate. Se la celebra o se la niega, se la considera mágica o maligna, beneficiosa o temible,y nadie a permanecido indiferente a este extraño proceso…pero no se lo debate or discuss or investigate: it prefers silence.
In our culture only shows the impact-absorbing protective pads on television ads, but it is forbidden for someone to find out that we are using them. The society supports and encourages this shame. It is considered proper to be ashamed, feel like a burden, we would hope that never came and relieved when they come no more.
If a healthy woman 40 years menstruating happens in your life just to have about 500 periods in total. But it makes sense
angry and ashamed of something that happens 500 times in life? Would not it be better reconciled with the process and live as a unique part of your feminine essence? What state is the woman in the world should be ashamed and hide a physiological process that invariably happens every 28 days? Is not it a highly debilitating, that of having to hide, hide, deny and conceal that something perfectly normal in our body? What's the macrobiotic dieting, Reiki, Tai Chi Chuan, Yoga, Pilates, meditation and various psychological therapies to be fine with it if we can not accept the natural process of our body? What about women in a society where if you come without warning and without cotton tampons heard you ask any woman you know to be discreet? It says it is possible that one of every seven women that surround us today are menstruating. Can one say which one is menstruating? And if there is no way of knowing what a woman is menstruating and what woman does not ... why is outlawed and disables a menstruating woman? Reasons not to say you're menstruating
- it can stain your clothes
others - because everyone would panic that you eat all
chocolates - because people will imagine that by switching the towel and gives them something
- be depressed men because they thought you pregnant
today - because the bartender will take away the desire to make a Bloody Mary (Mary Bleeding!
- because men are excited when they know you are of childbearing age
Excuses Elegant and feminine napkins if you get caught peeping bag
"I discovered that this is great for cleaning the windshield of my car"
"The mojo in ice water, I applied it on my eyes and rest in sight"
"The cleaning took over where my cat peeing"
"They are the best to shine the boots"
"Clean the table with it if they spill drinks"
"I hit in the ears when it gets very cold, and do not know how to entertain"
"I use them in their ears to muffle the loud noises of the city"
" Bring a towel soaked in cold water hit me in the neck and do not know how you cool in hot weather "
" Only I take off my makeup over for "
" When I emptied the tank of my goldfish, he made three of these and you're "
" It is a joke to my friends: they are cast in the gin and tonic and when they want to realize, the glass is empty "
" The use to dry hands. Is smaller than a dry towel and more "
" I am not menstruating. I take them to pretend that I am menstruating if I have no desire for sex "
" The use of metal polish. Absorb more metal cleaners that are disposable cloth and "
" The I to pretend that I am still menstruating my 78 years ... they make me feel young! "
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